# Community Engagement

> Building and running an online community across Discord, Reddit, forums, or Slack — setting up the space, solving the first-100-members problem, running engagement rituals and events, moderating fairly, and participating in existing communities without getting flagged as spam. Use when the user wants to launch a server or space, grow or revive a community, plan an AMA/event, write community rules or a moderation ladder, or post into someone else's subreddit/Discord on behalf of a product. Keywords community, Discord, Reddit, Slack, forum, moderation, AMA, onboarding, engagement, self-promotion, spam.

- Skill: `5dive-ai/community-engagement` (Agent Skill)
- Install (CLI): `npx skillmds@latest add 5dive-ai/community-engagement`
- Raw SKILL.md: https://api.skillmd.com/api/skills/5dive-ai/community-engagement/raw
- Safety review: pending
- Works with: Claude Code, Claude.ai, OpenAI Codex
- Category: Integrations & APIs
- License: MIT
- Author: 5dive-ai (https://skillmd.com/u/5dive-ai)
- Updated: 2026-09-17
- Page: https://skillmd.com/skills/5dive-ai/community-engagement

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# Community Engagement Guide

Running a community is mostly showing up, being a real person, and giving more than you take.
The tactics below are scaffolding — the substance is genuine attention. A dead server with
perfect channel structure is still dead. A scrappy one where the founder replies to everyone
is alive.

> The whole game: **give value first, talk like a human, and never make people feel farmed.**
> If a move only benefits you, it's not community work — it's marketing wearing a hoodie.

## Setting up the space

Don't over-build. A new server with 40 empty channels reads as abandoned before anyone posts.
Start lean, add channels when a real conversation outgrows its home.

**Starter channel set (Discord/Slack):**
- `#start-here` — rules, what this place is, one pinned "introduce yourself" prompt
- `#announcements` — read-only, low volume, you post here
- `#general` — the default hangout
- `#help` or `#support` — questions go here, not in DMs
- `#showcase` / `#wins` — members post what they made
- `#off-topic` — pressure valve; communities die without somewhere to be human

**Roles:** keep it to 3–4 to start. A `@member` (auto on join), a `@mod`, and one or two
identity roles people opt into (`@builder`, `@lurker-and-proud`). Reaction-role menus are nice
later; don't gate the front door with them.

### Onboarding flow template

The first 90 seconds decide whether someone stays. Make the next step obvious.

```
1. Welcome message (auto-DM or #start-here ping):
   "Hey {name} — glad you're here. This is where {one-line purpose}.
    Two things to get started:
    1. Drop a hello in #introductions (just say what you're working on)
    2. Skim the pinned post in #start-here
    That's it. Ask anything in #help — real people read it."

2. Intro prompt (pinned in #introductions), 3 light questions:
   - What are you working on / what brought you here?
   - One thing you're stuck on or curious about?
   - A non-work thing (so we're not all robots)?

3. First-response SLA: a human reacts/replies to every intro within ~24h.
   This is the single highest-leverage habit. Do it religiously early on.
```

Do: greet by name, ask one question, leave a clear next step.
Don't: dump a wall of rules, auto-DM a sales pitch, or make them pass a quiz to talk.

## The first-100-members problem

Empty rooms stay empty. You can't "open" a community and wait — you manufacture the early
liveliness by hand.

- **Seed before you scale.** Personally invite 15–30 people who already like you or the topic.
  Ask them directly: "I'm starting a small group for X — would you hang out for the first couple
  weeks?" A warm 20 beats a cold 2,000.
- **Be the metronome.** Post something every day yourself — a question, a link, a small win.
  Early on you ARE the activity. Expect to talk to yourself for a few weeks; that's the job.
- **Reply within minutes, not days.** A fast reply to member #7 is worth more than any growth
  hack. They tell others.
- **Create reasons to return.** A weekly ritual (see below) gives a dead chat a heartbeat.
- **Don't chase vanity numbers.** 100 people who talk beat 5,000 who muted you on day one.
  Growth before retention just fills a leaky bucket.

## Engagement loops — give people a reason to come back

Rituals turn a chat into a habit. Pick 1–2, run them on a fixed cadence, never skip.

| Ritual | Cadence | Prompt |
| --- | --- | --- |
| Weekly check-in | Mon | "What are you working on this week?" |
| Win Friday | Fri | "Ship anything? Brag a little." |
| Question of the week | Wed | One open question tied to the niche |
| Office hours / AMA | Monthly | Founder or guest answers live |
| Member spotlight | Biweekly | Feature one member's work in #announcements |

**Recognition is the cheapest fuel there is.** React to good posts. Pin a great answer.
@-mention someone who helped. "Member of the month" costs nothing and people screenshot it.
People stay where they feel seen.

Do: ask open questions ("what's hard about X?"), reply to replies, hand the mic to members.
Don't: post "engagement bait" ("comment 🔥 if you agree"), ask yes/no questions into the void,
or let your own announcements be the only thing in #general.

## Moderation — keep it fair and boring

The goal of moderation is that nobody has to think about it. Clear rules, consistent calls,
no drama.

**Rules (keep to ~5, plain language):**
1. Be decent. No harassment, slurs, or personal attacks.
2. No spam or unsolicited DMs/self-promo outside #showcase.
3. Stay roughly on-topic per channel.
4. No NSFW / illegal content.
5. Mods have final say; DM a mod if something's off.

**Handling conflict:**
- Cool it in public, resolve in DM. "Let's take this to DMs" de-escalates fast.
- Address behavior, not the person. "This crosses rule 1" beats "you're toxic."
- Never mod while annoyed. Step away, then act.
- Assume good faith once. Most heat is a misread, not malice.

**Ban ladder (document it, apply it evenly):**
```
1. Friendly nudge (public or DM) — "hey, let's keep #help on topic"
2. Formal warning (logged) — clear, names the rule
3. Timeout / mute (e.g. 24h) — for repeat or heated cases
4. Kick — removable, can rejoin; for persistent disruption
5. Ban — for harassment, spam rings, or after the ladder is exhausted
```
Skip straight to ban for bad-faith actors (raid bots, scammers, slur-droppers). Log mod actions
somewhere private so calls are consistent across mods.

## Running AMAs & events

- **Pick a guest with a real reason to show.** Their audience + your audience = the draw.
- **Collect questions in advance** in a thread. Seed 3–4 good ones so it's never silent.
- **Announce 2–3 times**: a week out, day before, an hour before. People forget.
- **Have a host** who keeps pace, reads questions aloud, and fills gaps.
- **Post a recap** after — summary + best Q&As pinned. The event keeps paying out for people
  who missed it.
- Format options: live text-chat AMA (lowest friction), voice/stage, or async ("Jane answers
  all week"). Async beats live for global, busy audiences.

## Participating in EXISTING communities (the hard part)

This is where most people torch their reputation. You're a guest in someone else's house.
Act like one.

**The 90/10 rule:** at least 90% of your activity in any community should be pure value —
answering questions, joining discussions, being helpful — with no link and nothing to sell.
Self-promotion is the other 10%, and only when it genuinely answers what was asked.

**Always:**
- **Give value first.** Be a known, helpful regular *before* you ever mention your thing.
  Lurk, learn the norms, post a few times with zero agenda.
- **Disclose affiliation, every time.** "Disclosure: I built this." It's required by Reddit
  and FTC-style rules, and people respect the honesty far more than they'd resent a plug.
- **Read the room's rules.** Many subreddits ban self-promo outright or have a designated
  thread. Honor it. Getting your domain shadowbanned site-wide isn't worth one post.
- **Recommend yourself only when it's the genuine best answer** — and mention alternatives too.
  "I built X which does this; Y and Z are also solid if you want fewer features."

**Never:**
- Drop a link and leave. Copy-paste the same comment across threads. Use a fresh account just
  to plug something. Astroturf with fake praise or sockpuppets. DM strangers a pitch.

### "Is this post spammy?" self-check

Run every promotional post through this before hitting send. A "yes" anywhere = rework it.

```
[ ] Am I a recognizable, helpful member here, or did I just show up to post this?
[ ] Does this directly answer the question/thread, or am I forcing my thing in?
[ ] Have I disclosed that I'm affiliated?
[ ] Would this be useful even if I deleted the link?
[ ] Am I within this community's self-promo rules?
[ ] Have I posted way more value than promotion here (the 90/10 test)?
[ ] Would I be glad to see this if a stranger posted it in MY community?
```

If you can't honestly clear all seven, you don't have a community post — you have an ad.
Post the value, skip the link, and earn the right to mention your thing later.