# Relationship Repair

> Relationship Repair

- Skill: `sethdford/relationship-repair` (Agent Skill, multi-file: 2 files)
- Install (CLI): `npx skillmds@latest add sethdford/relationship-repair`
- Raw SKILL.md: https://api.skillmd.com/api/skills/sethdford/relationship-repair/raw
- Safety review: pending
- Works with: Claude Code, Claude.ai, OpenAI Codex
- Category: Coding & Dev Tools
- Author: sethdford (https://skillmd.com/u/sethdford)
- Updated: 2026-09-17
- Page: https://skillmd.com/skills/sethdford/relationship-repair

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# Relationship Repair

After rupture, the goal is rarely pretending nothing happened—it is **forward** trust: clearer needs, safer patterns, and proof over time.

## When to Use
- Post-fight cooldown, lingering resentment, broken agreements, or “we made up but it still feels off.”

## Workflow
- **De-escalate first** (pause, lower volume, repair bids—any move that stops the spiral).
- **Acknowledge the rupture** explicitly; both experiences can be valid without agreeing on every fact.
- **Name trigger and underlying need** beneath positions (“You need reliability; I need autonomy”).
- **Define repair** together—not always “back to before,” often “toward something sturdier.”
- **Agree on changes** you can both observe; follow-up beats one dramatic talk.

## Examples
**Good:** “What would ‘repaired’ look like to you this week—in actions, not vibes?”

**Avoid:** Forcing instant closure or “forgive and forget” when harm or pattern work is unfinished.