# Social Physics Filter

> Unified boundary enforcement, interpersonal diagnostic, and relational audit engine. Absorbs 40 psychology + 2 social protocols and all relationship case studies.

- Skill: `winstonkoh87/social-physics-filter` (Agent Skill)
- Install (CLI): `npx skillmds@latest add winstonkoh87/social-physics-filter`
- Raw SKILL.md: https://api.skillmd.com/api/skills/winstonkoh87/social-physics-filter/raw
- Safety review: pending
- Works with: Claude Code, Claude.ai, OpenAI Codex
- Category: Security
- Author: winstonkoh87 (https://skillmd.com/u/winstonkoh87)
- Updated: 2026-09-17
- Page: https://skillmd.com/skills/winstonkoh87/social-physics-filter

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# Social Physics Filter — Boundary Enforcement & Relational Diagnostics

> **Compiled**: 2026-05-11 (retroactive synthesis of 42+ protocols)
> **Problem Class**: All interpersonal dynamics — friendships, romantic relationships, client boundaries, family patterns, social contracts, and the psychological schemas that distort rational decision-making.
> **Axiom**: *"The nervous system replays what is FAMILIAR, not what is HEALTHY. Unexamined wounds select for partners/clients/deals that re-inflict the wound."*

## When to Use

Invoke whenever the user mentions:
- Relationship frustration, boundary violations, or interpersonal conflict
- Feelings of rejection, loneliness, validation-seeking, or people-pleasing
- Analysis of someone's behavior or motives
- Dating/relationship dynamics
- Schema therapy, IFS, or parts work
- "Am I overreacting?" / "Is this normal?" / "What should I do about [person]?"

## Solution Architecture

### Module 1: The Wound-Selection Diagnostic (MP-8)

**The Core Loop**:
```
Unexamined wound/schema → pattern-matching bias
  → Selects for FAMILIAR, not HEALTHY
    → Familiar option re-inflicts the wound
      → Pain reinforces the schema
        → Selection bias deepens → Loop continues
```

**The One Question**: *"Is this FAMILIAR or is this HEALTHY?"*

If the attraction/comfort is based on familiarity with a painful pattern, the wound is selecting.

### Module 2: The Pryce Protocol (6-Point Meta-Awareness Diagnostic)

Before ANY high-stakes social action:

| Gate | Check | Red Flag |
|:-----|:------|:---------|
| 1. **Emotional Temperature** | "Am I in a regulated state?" | Flooded/activated = delay 24 hrs |
| 2. **Projection Check** | "Am I seeing THEM or my schema?" | If it feels like a past wound, it IS the schema |
| 3. **Audience Check** | "Who am I performing for?" | If an invisible audience exists, pause |
| 4. **Exit Test** | "Can I walk away clean?" | If not, you're hostage |
| 5. **STFU Clause** | "Will saying this improve the structural outcome?" | If no strategic gain, STFU |
| 6. **Blast Radius Audit** | "Who else gets hurt?" | Collateral damage > 2 people = full stop |

### Module 3: IFS Parts Mapping (PSY-128)

When emotional flooding occurs, decompose into parts:

| Part | Function | Typical Manifestation |
|:-----|:---------|:---------------------|
| **Protector** (Firefighter) | Emergency response | Anger, withdrawal, numbing, overwork |
| **Manager** | Preemptive control | People-pleasing, perfectionism, hypervigilance |
| **Exile** | Carries the original wound | Shame, abandonment terror, worthlessness |
| **Self** | The regulated observer | Curiosity, compassion, clarity, calm |

**Protocol**: 
1. Notice the activation (which part is driving?)
2. Ask: "What is this part trying to protect me from?"
3. Acknowledge the part's intention (it's trying to help)
4. Access Self-energy (curiosity, not judgment)
5. Ask the exile: "What do you need me to know?"

### Module 4: The Relationship Tier Audit (PSY-158)

Classify all relationships into structural tiers:

| Tier | Definition | Investment Level |
|:-----|:----------|:----------------|
| **Tier 1** (Inner Circle) | Reciprocal, high-trust, crisis-tested | Maximum — they get access to vulnerability |
| **Tier 2** (Functional) | Reliable for specific contexts | Moderate — context-specific trust |
| **Tier 3** (Peripheral) | Pleasant but untested | Minimal — social pleasantries only |
| **Tier 4** (Toxic/Extraction) | Takes more than gives, violates boundaries | ZERO — enforce boundary or exit |

**Upgrade/Downgrade Criteria**:
- Upgrade: Demonstrated reciprocity under stress
- Downgrade: Boundary violation, non-reciprocity confirmed via revealed preference (Law #3)
- Exit: Pattern of extraction with no structural correction

### Module 5: The Schema Deconstruction Stack (PSY-196)

**Core Schemas Identified** (from 1,900+ sessions):

| Schema | Manifestation | Source | Counter-Protocol |
|:-------|:-------------|:-------|:----------------|
| **Peer Validation Gap** | Seeking peer validation | Developmental gap | Recognize the search pattern (§294) |
| **Good Boy Paradox** | Compliance loop → resentment | Conditional approval | Sovereign boundary enforcement (PSY-122) |
| **Vending Machine** | "If I give enough, they'll give back" | Transactional intimacy belief | Law #3: actions > words. Stop depositing. |
| **Hope Override** | Continuing despite negative data | Emotional attachment > rational analysis | CS-012: "Hope > Data" = self-deception |
| **Deterministic Logic Error** | "If I do X perfectly, Y MUST happen" | Control illusion | PSY-197: Outcomes are stochastic, not deterministic |

### Module 6: The Adult-to-Adult Communication Rewriter (PSY-20)

**Before sending ANY emotionally charged message**, run through:

```
ORIGINAL (Raw emotion):  "You always do this..."
  ↓
STRUCTURAL REWRITE:
  1. Observation (fact): "When X happened..."
  2. Impact (feeling): "I felt Y..."
  3. Need (structural): "I need Z going forward..."
  4. Request (concrete): "Can we agree to [specific behavior]?"
```

**The STFU Override**: If the rewrite provides no strategic gain, do NOT send. Silence is often the highest-leverage move.

## Output Template

```
SOCIAL PHYSICS REPORT
─────────────────────
Situation:        [Description]
Wound Check:      [Familiar / Healthy — schema identified: ...]
Pryce Protocol:   [6 gates: ✅/⚠️/❌ per gate]
Parts Active:     [Protector / Manager / Exile — which is driving?]
Relationship Tier: [1 / 2 / 3 / 4 — upgrade/downgrade/exit?]
Schema Match:     [Which schema is operating?]
Communication:    [Adult-to-Adult rewrite provided / STFU recommended]

VERDICT: [ENGAGE / BOUNDARY / EXIT / STFU]
```

## Absorbed Protocol Index

### Psychology (40)
PSY-107 (Integrated Therapeutic Mode), PSY-113 (Missing Baseline), PSY-114 (Limerent Reality Distortion), PSY-120 (Power Inversion), PSY-122 (Good Boy Paradox), PSY-128 (IFS), PSY-134 (Symbolic Transmutation), PSY-158 (Relationship Tier Audit), PSY-159 (Augmentation Circuit Breaker), PSY-186 (SOEP), PSY-189 (Correct Container), PSY-191 (Heavy-Light Game), PSY-194 (Three-Mode Calibration), PSY-195 (Friend Portfolio), PSY-196 (Schema Deconstruction), PSY-197 (Deterministic Logic Error), PSY-20 (Adult-Adult), PSY-22 (Divine Call Archaeology), PSY-25 (Reliving vs Processing), and 21 more.

### Social (2)
SOC-155 (Imperviousness Audit), SOC-LinkedIn (Publication Strategy)

### Absorbed Skills
- `therapeutic-ifs` → IFS parts mapping + schema deconstruction
- `consiglieri-protocol` → Pryce Test + STFU Clause + Blast Radius Audit

## Key Case Studies

CS-004 ([PRIVATE]), CS-007 ([Location A] Solipsism), CS-008 (FA Extraction), CS-009 (Plausible Deniability), CS-011 (Friendship Forensics), CS-012 (Hope Override), CS-014 (Compliance Loop [Subject A]), CS-050 (Samchoon Arrested Development), CS-056 (Weaponized Vulnerability [Subject B]), CS-063 ([Subject B]-[Subject C] Analysis), CS-086 (Ex-Friend Reality Gap), CS-094 ([Subject B] Sorry-Babe Trap), CS-112 ([Subject B] Paradox Deep Dive), CS-113 (The 14-Day Silence), CS-115 (The Haunting Invalidation), CS-134 ([Subject B] Protocol), CS-166 ([Subject D] Relational Audit), CS-168 ([Subject D] Audit [Subject B]), CS-194 (Dating Portfolio), CS-197 (Relationship Dollar Fallacy), CS-207 (Bilateral Validation Spiral), CS-221 (Pryce Protocol), CS-225 (Suicidal Ideation Mechanic), CS-229 (Form-Substance Gap Loneliness), CS-232 (Projected Intent Pattern), CS-233 (NSF Relationship Void), CS-261 (Unicorn Fallacy), CS-403 ([Subject B] Revealed Preference), CS-406 (Replacement Fallacy), CS-444 (Situationship Fallacy), CS-453 (Soulful Stoic), CS-565 (Bionic IFS Auxiliary Self)

## Failure Modes & Mitigations

| Failure | Mitigation |
|---------|------------|
| **Emotional Flooding** | Pryce Gate 1: If not regulated, DELAY 24 hrs. No exceptions. |
| **Schema Hijack** | If it feels "familiar," the wound is selecting. Run Module 1. |
| **Vending Machine Loop** | Law #3 audit: Are their ACTIONS reciprocal? Words are irrelevant. |
| **Hope Override** | CS-012: If data says no, hope doesn't change the math. |
| **Sunk Cost in Relationships** (MP-14) | "Would I START this relationship today?" If no, the decision is made. |

## Validated Patterns (Empirical)

- [V] **The 14-Day Silence Test**: If someone can go 14 days without initiating contact, their revealed preference is clear. | Reapply: Any ambiguous relationship.
- [V] **Schema repetition across domains**: The same wound that selects avoidant friends ALSO selects extractive clients. Fix the wound, fix both. | Reapply: When client dynamics mirror personal patterns.
- [V] **STFU > Confrontation**: In 4/5 historically analyzed confrontations, silence produced better outcomes than direct engagement. | Reapply: Every urge to "set the record straight."
- [V] **Bionic IFS Failover** (CS-565): When biological flooding overwhelms, offload the Self-energy function to the AI system (silicon substrate). | Reapply: Any emotional crisis where clarity is needed NOW.

## References

- META_PATTERNS.md — MP-8 (Wound-Selects-For-Itself)
- [bionic-decision-engine](../therapeutic-ifs/SKILL.md) — For decisions involving people
- CS-565 — Bionic IFS Architecture