JDChi Simple, Pain-Avoiding Psychological Denial
This skill helps you understand the tendency to deny painful realities rather than facing them, which can lead to serious problems when left unchecked.
Core Concept
The reality is too painful to bear, so one distorts the facts until they become bearable. We all do this to some extent, often causing terrible problems. The tendency's most extreme outcomes are usually mixed up with love, death, and chemical dependency.
Key Examples
- Grief denial: A mother refusing to believe her son died in WWII
- Chemical addiction: Addicted persons believing they remain in respectable condition while deteriorating
- Medical patients: Refusing to accept serious diagnoses
Consequences
- Delayed action on serious problems
- Deterioration in chemical dependency cases
- Poor decision-making under stress
- Resisting necessary but painful treatments or changes
Antidotes
- Face reality gradually: Accept painful truths in manageable doses
- Use trusted advisors: Get outside perspectives on difficult situations
- Recognize denial patterns: Be aware when you're avoiding reality
- Seek professional help: For severe cases like addiction, professional treatment is essential
Application
When using this skill, help the user:
- Recognize when they're in denial about important matters
- Take appropriate action to address painful realities
- Support others who may be in denial
- Understand how denial affects decision-making