Follow-Up Chaser Skill
Unanswered email dies in two ways: never chased (the ask silently expires) or chased badly ("just bumping this!" seven times, each one easier to ignore than the last). Good chasing is engineered: each follow-up lowers the cost of replying — restating the ask smaller, offering a default, adding a deadline with a reason — and the sequence escalates channel or stakes, not temperature. Three rungs, then a graceful close that converts silence into an answer.
What This Skill Produces
- The sequence — 2–3 follow-ups with dates, each drafted, each easier to answer than the last
- The re-ask engineering — the original request shrunk to its yes/no core with a default attached
- The channel escalation — when rung 3 moves from email to chat/call, and how to do it without ambush
- The graceful close — the final note that ends the thread with the relationship intact
Required Inputs
Ask for these if not provided:
- The original ask and its date — what was requested, how big the ask is (a signature vs. a favor vs. a decision), and any real deadline
- The relationship and power direction — chasing a report, a peer, a boss, and a customer are four different cadences
- The stakes — blocking your work? Nice-to-have? The sequence's pace and the close's shape follow
Framework: The Chase Rules
- Wait right: internal asks get 2–3 business days before rung one; external/senior get 4–5; anything with a stated deadline gets chased at deadline-minus-buffer regardless. Chasing at 24 hours reads as pressure; at two weeks the thread is cold and the chase restarts from context.
- Rung 1 — reduce the ask: don't "bump" — shrink. Restate in one line, convert to yes/no where possible, attach a default: "If I don't hear by Friday I'll go with option A — flag if that's wrong." Defaults convert silence into a decision, which is the whole trick.
- Rung 2 — add legitimate urgency: the reason the timing matters, stated plainly ("the vendor quote expires Thursday"), plus the smallest possible version of the ask ("even a one-word yes works"). Never manufactured urgency — one fake deadline poisons all future real ones.
- Rung 3 — change channel, kindly: "Sending a quick ping here in case email got buried" — chat or a 2-minute call ask. Channel escalation reads as helpful persistence; a third identical email reads as nagging.
- The close: after rung 3, silence is the answer — close explicitly: "Haven't heard back, so I'll [default/drop it]. Reopen anytime." Closing converts a zombie thread into a decision, protects the relationship, and — often — finally triggers the reply.
Output Format
Chase Plan: [the ask] — sent [date]
The Sequence
| Rung |
Send date |
Channel |
The move |
The Drafts
[Rung 1: the shrunk ask + default, verbatim · Rung 2: urgency + smallest ask · Rung 3: the channel ping · The close]
Waiting-On Hygiene
[The @waiting entry: what, who, next rung date — reviewed weekly]
Quality Checks
Anti-Patterns
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6# Follow-Up Chaser Skill
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8Unanswered email dies in two ways: never chased (the ask silently expires) or chased badly ("just bumping this!" seven times, each one easier to ignore than the last). Good chasing is engineered: each follow-up *lowers the cost of replying* — restating the ask smaller, offering a default, adding a deadline with a reason — and the sequence escalates channel or stakes, not temperature. Three rungs, then a graceful close that converts silence into an answer.
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10## What This Skill Produces
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12- **The sequence** — 2–3 follow-ups with dates, each drafted, each easier to answer than the last
13- **The re-ask engineering** — the original request shrunk to its yes/no core with a default attached
14- **The channel escalation** — when rung 3 moves from email to chat/call, and how to do it without ambush
15- **The graceful close** — the final note that ends the thread with the relationship intact
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17## Required Inputs
18
19Ask for these if not provided:
20- **The original ask and its date** — what was requested, how big the ask is (a signature vs. a favor vs. a decision), and any real deadline
21- **The relationship and power direction** — chasing a report, a peer, a boss, and a customer are four different cadences
22- **The stakes** — blocking your work? Nice-to-have? The sequence's pace and the close's shape follow
23
24## Framework: The Chase Rules
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261. **Wait right:** internal asks get 2–3 business days before rung one; external/senior get 4–5; anything with a stated deadline gets chased at deadline-minus-buffer regardless. Chasing at 24 hours reads as pressure; at two weeks the thread is cold and the chase restarts from context.
272. **Rung 1 — reduce the ask:** don't "bump" — *shrink*. Restate in one line, convert to yes/no where possible, attach a default: "If I don't hear by Friday I'll go with option A — flag if that's wrong." Defaults convert silence into a decision, which is the whole trick.
283. **Rung 2 — add legitimate urgency:** the reason the timing matters, stated plainly ("the vendor quote expires Thursday"), plus the smallest possible version of the ask ("even a one-word yes works"). Never manufactured urgency — one fake deadline poisons all future real ones.
294. **Rung 3 — change channel, kindly:** "Sending a quick ping here in case email got buried" — chat or a 2-minute call ask. Channel escalation reads as helpful persistence; a third identical email reads as nagging.
305. **The close:** after rung 3, silence *is* the answer — close explicitly: "Haven't heard back, so I'll [default/drop it]. Reopen anytime." Closing converts a zombie thread into a decision, protects the relationship, and — often — finally triggers the reply.
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32## Output Format
33
34# Chase Plan: [the ask] — sent [date]
35
36## The Sequence
37| Rung | Send date | Channel | The move |
38|---|---|---|---|
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40## The Drafts
41[Rung 1: the shrunk ask + default, verbatim · Rung 2: urgency + smallest ask · Rung 3: the channel ping · The close]
42
43## Waiting-On Hygiene
44[The @waiting entry: what, who, next rung date — reviewed weekly]
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46## Quality Checks
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48- [ ] Rung 1 shrinks the ask rather than bumping it
49- [ ] Every deadline cited is real, with its reason
50- [ ] The default-on-silence appears wherever a default legitimately exists
51- [ ] Channel escalation happens once, framed as buried-email courtesy
52- [ ] The close is drafted before the sequence starts — silence has a planned meaning
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54## Anti-Patterns
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56- [ ] Do not send "just bumping this" — a bump adds nothing and costs attention
57- [ ] Do not escalate temperature (guilt, passive aggression) — escalate channel and clarity instead
58- [ ] Do not chase without a waiting-list entry — untracked chases become the zombie threads
59- [ ] Do not fake urgency — the first discovered fake deadline devalues every future real one
60- [ ] Do not let threads die unclosed — an explicit close beats an awkward silence in every relationship that matters