One On One

Overview

Based on "The Manager's Path" by Camille Fournier and "High Output Management" by Andy Grove. Grove's core insight: the 1:1 is the employee's meeting, not the manager's. Its purpose is to surface information the manager would not otherwise get - problems, morale, blockers, aspirations. Fournier adds the career dimension: the 1:1 is where you build the relationship that makes all other conversations (feedback, promotion, hard decisions) possible. A 1:1 that is purely a status update is a wasted hour.

The 1:1 Operating Model

Frequency: Weekly for new reports (first 3-6 months), every 2 weeks for established reports. Never less than monthly. Canceling 1:1s signals they are not a priority - the report reads that signal.

Length: 30 minutes minimum. 45-60 minutes for complex situations, career conversations, or performance discussions.

Owner: The report owns the agenda. The manager owns the follow-through. If the report comes with nothing, that is information - either they don't understand the purpose of 1:1s, or they don't feel safe raising things.

Format: Running shared doc. Both parties add to it before the meeting. History is visible - follow-ups don't fall through gaps.

Workflow

Step 1: Set Up the 1:1 Doc

Create a shared doc with this structure:

1:1 - [Manager] + [Report]
Cadence: [weekly / biweekly]

[Date]
Report agenda:
  -

Manager agenda:
  -

Follow-ups from last time:
  -

Notes:

Tell your report explicitly: "This is your meeting. Add whatever is on your mind before we meet. I'll add anything I need to cover, but your items come first."

Step 2: Open Questions (Use These to Start)

Do not open with project status. Open with one of these:

For general 1:1s:

• "What's on your mind this week?"
• "What's been hardest or most frustrating?"
• "What are you most excited about right now?"
• "Is there anything you're stuck on that I can help with?"
• "What's something you've noticed that I might not be aware of?"

For career-focused 1:1s (run quarterly):

• "Where do you want to be in 2 years? What does that look like for you?"
• "What parts of your work feel like your best work?"
• "What skills do you want to build this quarter?"
• "Is there a project or responsibility you want to take on?"

For struggling reports:

• "What would make your work feel easier or better?"
• "What's something I'm doing that isn't helping you?"
• "If you could change one thing about how we work together, what would it be?"

Step 3: Four Topics to Cover Across 1:1s

Not every topic in every meeting. Rotate them based on what the report raises. Over a month, make sure all four get covered.

1. Current work and blockers What are they working on, what's in the way, what decisions need to be made. This is the status-update layer - keep it brief. If there are no blockers, move on. Do not spend 30 minutes here.

2. Team and relationships How is collaboration going? Are there interpersonal tensions? Are they getting what they need from teammates or stakeholders? This surfaces problems early before they become escalations.

3. Growth and career What are they working toward? What feedback do they need? What's their next challenge? This is where you have the career conversation most managers avoid until review time.

4. Your feedback and their feedback to you Deliver specific feedback (positive and corrective). Invite feedback on your own behavior: "What's something I could do differently that would help you?" This models the behavior you want.

Step 4: Follow-Up Protocol

End every 1:1 with explicit follow-ups:

Follow-ups from this meeting:
  - [Report] will [specific action] by [date]
  - [Manager] will [specific action] by [date]

At the start of the next 1:1, review these before anything else. Skipped follow-ups tell the report their items aren't tracked. That trust, once lost, is hard to rebuild.

Step 5: Signals to Watch For

These patterns in 1:1s indicate problems that need attention:

Anti-Patterns

1. 1:1 as status meeting Bad: Spending the 30 minutes walking through Jira tickets and project updates. Good: You can read Jira. The 1:1 is for things that don't surface in writing - morale, friction, growth, what the person is actually thinking. Status belongs in standup, not 1:1.

2. Manager dominating the agenda Bad: Coming with 10 things to cover and barely asking the report anything. Good: The report's items come first. Always. Your items are secondary and can often be handled asynchronously.

3. Canceling 1:1s Bad: Canceling when you're busy or have a conflict. Good: Protect 1:1s more than almost any other meeting. Canceling signals that this person is low priority. If you must cancel, reschedule in the same week.

4. No shared doc, no follow-ups Bad: Verbal conversation that disappears immediately. Good: A running shared doc creates accountability, continuity, and a record. Without it, the same problems recur because nothing is tracked.

5. Waiting for the performance review for career conversations Bad: Discussing growth and promotion only during the annual review cycle. Good: Career conversations in 1:1s (quarterly minimum) mean no one is surprised by a promotion decision or performance rating. Build the relationship before you need it for hard conversations.

Quality Checklist

• Report owns the agenda and added items before the meeting
• Meeting opened with a question, not a status request
• At least one of the four topic areas covered beyond current work
• Specific follow-ups written down with owners and dates
• Follow-ups from the previous meeting reviewed at the start
• No 1:1 canceled without same-week reschedule
• Feedback (positive or corrective) delivered at least once every 2 weeks