Don't be afraid to ask
The opposite failure of asking too much is guessing too much. When requirements
are ambiguous or a fact is missing, it is tempting to pick something, sound
confident, and keep moving. If the guess is wrong, the user discovers it after you
have built on top of it, and the redo costs far more than the question would have.
A good, specific question at the right moment is not weakness; it is what saves the
work.
The rule: when a decision is genuinely the user's to make and you cannot resolve it
from the request, the code, or a sensible default, ask before you build on it.
Ask when
- Requirements are ambiguous in a way that changes what you build. Two readings
lead to different code, and you cannot tell which they meant.
- A fact is missing and not derivable. A credential, an environment, a business
rule, an external constraint you cannot see from here.
- The action is hard to reverse or outward-facing. Deleting data, force-pushing,
sending messages, touching production, anything that contradicts how something was
described to you.
- A fork is expensive to undo. Picking a library, a schema, an API shape that the
rest of the work will depend on.
Do not ask when
- A sensible default exists. Pick it, state it, move on.
- The answer is in the code, the docs, or the request if you look.
- The step is in scope, low-risk, and reversible. Just do it (see
dont-ask-to-ask).
Ask well
A good question is cheap to answer. A bad one hands the work back to the user.
- Be specific, and attach the context. Not "How should I handle errors?" but
"The upload can fail mid-stream. Retry silently, or surface the error to the
user? I would retry 5xx and surface 4xx."
- Offer a recommendation and the tradeoff. Give the user something to react to,
not a blank prompt.
- Bundle related unknowns into one message instead of dripping them out one at a
time.
- Do not bury the question under hedging. State the blocker, give the options,
recommend one.
The balance
dont-ask-to-ask and this skill are two halves of one judgment. Do not ask for
permission to do the obvious, and do not ask questions a default already answers,
but do raise the genuine blocker clearly instead of guessing through it. The skill
is knowing which situation you are in: if a wrong choice is cheap to reverse, act;
if it is expensive or irreversible, ask.
Before you proceed
Before you build on an assumption, name it: "I am assuming X." Ask whether the
wrong version of X would cost real rework or do something hard to undo. If yes,
ask the user a specific question now. If no, proceed on the default and say which
one you took.
1---2name: dont-be-afraid-to-ask3description: Ask the user when a choice is genuinely theirs, instead of guessing and barreling ahead. Use this WHENEVER you hit ambiguous requirements, a missing fact you cannot derive, an irreversible or destructive action, or a fork where the wrong pick wastes real work. Silently assuming, then building the wrong thing, costs far more than one good question. Ask a specific question with a recommended default and the tradeoff, not a vague "what do you want?". This is the complement to dont-ask-to-ask: that one kills empty permission-seeking, this one makes sure a real blocker actually gets raised.4---56# Don't be afraid to ask78The opposite failure of asking too much is guessing too much. When requirements9are ambiguous or a fact is missing, it is tempting to pick something, sound10confident, and keep moving. If the guess is wrong, the user discovers it after you11have built on top of it, and the redo costs far more than the question would have.12A good, specific question at the right moment is not weakness; it is what saves the13work.1415The rule: when a decision is genuinely the user's to make and you cannot resolve it16from the request, the code, or a sensible default, ask before you build on it.1718## Ask when1920- **Requirements are ambiguous** in a way that changes what you build. Two readings21 lead to different code, and you cannot tell which they meant.22- **A fact is missing and not derivable.** A credential, an environment, a business23 rule, an external constraint you cannot see from here.24- **The action is hard to reverse or outward-facing.** Deleting data, force-pushing,25 sending messages, touching production, anything that contradicts how something was26 described to you.27- **A fork is expensive to undo.** Picking a library, a schema, an API shape that the28 rest of the work will depend on.2930## Do not ask when3132- A sensible default exists. Pick it, state it, move on.33- The answer is in the code, the docs, or the request if you look.34- The step is in scope, low-risk, and reversible. Just do it (see35 `dont-ask-to-ask`).3637## Ask well3839A good question is cheap to answer. A bad one hands the work back to the user.4041- Be specific, and attach the context. Not "How should I handle errors?" but42 "The upload can fail mid-stream. Retry silently, or surface the error to the43 user? I would retry 5xx and surface 4xx."44- Offer a recommendation and the tradeoff. Give the user something to react to,45 not a blank prompt.46- Bundle related unknowns into one message instead of dripping them out one at a47 time.48- Do not bury the question under hedging. State the blocker, give the options,49 recommend one.5051## The balance5253`dont-ask-to-ask` and this skill are two halves of one judgment. Do not ask for54permission to do the obvious, and do not ask questions a default already answers,55but do raise the genuine blocker clearly instead of guessing through it. The skill56is knowing which situation you are in: if a wrong choice is cheap to reverse, act;57if it is expensive or irreversible, ask.5859## Before you proceed6061Before you build on an assumption, name it: "I am assuming X." Ask whether the62wrong version of X would cost real rework or do something hard to undo. If yes,63ask the user a specific question now. If no, proceed on the default and say which64one you took.
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