PM Family

Record a parent's or grandparent's life while they can still tell it — the question arcs that unlock real stories instead of resume facts, the session logistics that keep it sustainable, the follow-up probes that get the texture, and the pipeline from recordings to a book the family keeps. Use when asked to interview my grandmother about her life, record dad's stories before it is too late, questions to ask an elderly parent, or make a family history book. Produces the session plan with question arcs, the interviewer technique guide, the consent and boundaries conversation, and the transcript-to-book pipeline. Warm, unhurried, and honest that later never comes on schedule.

Help you write a heartfelt letter to someone you love — for an anniversary, a hard time, a birthday, or just because — that sounds like you and says what you actually mean. Use when asked to help me write a love letter, say how I feel to my partner, a heartfelt note for [occasion], or I'm not good with words. Produces a letter built from your real feelings and specifics, a structure that carries emotion without cheese, the right tone for your relationship and occasion, and phrasing in your own voice — with prompts to draw out what you want to say if you're stuck.

Turn 'we're having a baby' into a calm, timed logistics plan — the admin, leave, registrations, and prep that has to happen, sequenced so nothing critical is left to the newborn haze. Use when asked to plan for a new baby, what do I need to do before the baby comes, new baby checklist, or help me prepare for a newborn. Produces a trimester/countdown checklist of the non-obvious admin (leave, benefits, insurance, registration, pediatrician, essentials), what to set up before vs after birth, and a lean 'actually need it' gear list — not a fear-driven mega-list.

Plan the merging of two families thoughtfully — roles, rules, routines, and relationships — so a blended household starts on the right foot instead of a collision. Use when asked to help blend our families, moving in with my partner and their kids, step-parenting help, or how to merge two households. Produces a read on the situation and its sensitivities, an approach to step-parent roles and discipline, a plan to align house rules and routines across homes, ways to build relationships at each child's pace, and how to handle exes and loyalty binds — realistic, not idealized. Not therapy.

Write personal wedding vows that sound like you — specific, heartfelt, and the right length — instead of generic or cheesy. Use when asked to write my wedding vows, help me with vows, what should I say at my wedding, or vows that aren't cliché. Produces vows built from your real story and specifics, a structure (who you are together, a promise or few, a look forward), the right tone and length for your ceremony, coordination notes with your partner, and a version you can actually deliver out loud without crying through the whole thing.

Compare childcare options — nursery/daycare, childminder, nanny, family, or a mix — for your family's real needs, budget, and values. Use when asked to compare childcare options, nursery vs nanny, how to choose childcare, or find the right childcare. Produces a needs-and-values profile, a side-by-side of the realistic options on cost/flexibility/socialization/control, the questions to ask and red flags to check on visits, a total-cost read (including subsidies), and a decision that fits your priorities — not a generic ranking.

Write calm, businesslike co-parenting messages that keep the focus on the kids and stay out of the old conflict — for scheduling, expenses, decisions, and hard topics. Use when asked to write a message to my co-parent, respond to my ex about the kids, co-parenting communication help, or how to reply without a fight. Produces a message drafted in a neutral, child-centered tone (the 'BIFF'-style brief/informative/friendly/firm approach), the bait removed, a clear ask or answer, and a note on documentation — steering away from anything that escalates. Not legal advice.

Build a family emergency plan — contacts, meeting points, key documents, and 'if something happens to me' info — so your household isn't scrambling in a crisis. Use when asked to make a family emergency plan, be prepared for an emergency, what if something happens to me, or organize our important info. Produces a household plan covering communication and meeting points, an emergency contact/ICE setup, a key-documents and info location list, a basic go-bag/supplies checklist, and a 'someone needs to find this' plan — tailored to your household and likely local risks.

Run a calm, regular relationship check-in with your partner — a structured 'how are we doing' conversation that catches small things before they become big ones. Use when asked how to check in with my partner, we need to talk about our relationship, set up a relationship check-in, or improve communication with my partner. Produces a simple check-in structure (appreciations, what's working, what needs attention, needs and asks), ground rules that keep it safe not combative, prompts to surface the real stuff, a cadence that fits you, and a note on when an issue is bigger than a check-in.

Turn the household unwritten rules into a short charter everyone actually agreed to — screens, chores, money, guests, quiet — drafted together, with consequences decided in advance and an amendment process so it bends instead of breaking. Use when asked to make family rules that stick, a screen-time agreement, a flatmate agreement, or stop having the same argument about chores. Produces the negotiation session plan, the drafted constitution, the consequence menu agreed before anyone breaks anything, and the review procedure. Works for families and shared houses; slightly funny on purpose, binding on purpose too.

Choose the right school for a specific child by weighing what actually matters to them and your family — not just rankings. Use when asked how to choose a school, compare schools for my kid, which school is best, or help me decide on a school. Produces a priorities profile for this child, a comparison of the options on the factors that matter (fit, teaching, environment, logistics, cost), the questions to ask and things to observe on visits, a weighted decision, and a note that a good fit beats a high ranking.

Set a boundary with in-laws or extended family kindly and clearly — the words to say, a united-front approach with your partner, and a plan for the pushback. Use when asked how to set a boundary with my in-laws, my mother-in-law keeps [X], deal with overbearing family, or what to say to my partner's family. Produces a read on the actual issue, a warm-but-firm script for the specific situation, a partner-alignment plan (the couple presents together), how to hold the line when they push back, and de-escalation so it protects the relationships rather than blowing them up.

Write a sincere condolence or sympathy message when someone has died or a friend is grieving — warm, personal, and free of the clichés that hurt more than help. Use when asked what to say when someone dies, write a sympathy/condolence message, my friend lost their [person], or I don't know what to say. Produces a heartfelt message tuned to your relationship and the situation, drawn from a specific memory or quality where possible, an honest acknowledgment (not toxic-positive platitudes), an offer of concrete support, and guidance on what to avoid saying.

Rescue the recipes that exist only in someone's hands — the interview that converts a handful of this and cook until it looks right into measurements, the cook-along session that captures what paper cannot, and the cookbook format that keeps the stories attached to the food. Use when asked to write down grandma's recipes, preserve family recipes, how much is some flour, or make a family cookbook. Produces the recipe-extraction interview, the calibration tricks for unmeasured cooking, the cook-along protocol, the story capture per dish, and the cookbook assembly plan. A cousin of oral-history-kit, aimed at the kitchen.

Build a plan to keep a long-distance relationship close and healthy — communication rhythms, visits, shared experiences, and a shared sense of the finish line. Use when asked to help with a long-distance relationship, how to make LDR work, we're going long distance, or keep our relationship strong apart. Produces a communication rhythm that fits both schedules and time zones, ideas for shared experiences across the distance, a visit and cost plan, ways to handle the hard parts (jealousy, loneliness, resentment), and an honest 'the plan' conversation about the end goal.